Usually there is very little or no information known to most of the parents at the time of the arrival of their first baby. There are many new questions that come to the mind of the parents of a newly born baby like how to handle their babies first cold, how to make babies sleep, what kind of food is good for them till the age of 6-9 months, how to soothe babies teething pain, signs that tell if the baby is ready for the solid food and why the solid food is not good for them in the initial few months and so on. The list of such questions is endless.
We get a bunch of different advice and opinions on such questions from everyone we talk to and since babies don’t come with a “manual” – it’s hard to know what the right thing to do is. Thus, it is very important that the parents should educate themselves with the right ways or techniques to take care of their newly born babies.
If mom and dad spend significant time holding and connecting with the new baby physically, a strong bond of intuition tends to develop which serves to facilitate communication between the new infant and the parent. This intuition should be encouraged and honed and it can become a very useful tool that the baby can use to “talk” to the parent with only crying as a language. This cry has been studied and experts have found that different cries that the baby uses can tell the parent what the baby needs.
If the new baby cries unreasonably, before panicking ask “Are you wet, soiled or uncomfortable (check the diaper), too hot, too cold, (the baby’s hands will be hot or cold to tell you this). Are you hungry? (Nurse or feed set amounts of formulas at set intervals). Are you too full and have a tummy ache or bubble? Do you want to be cuddled? Are you tired? (Your shoulder or lap and a rocking chair would get them off to sleep, and when they are sleeping, slowly and smoothly lay them down and cover them in their bed and go get some rest too).
Friends with kids are a great way to learn about what to do. Friends can help take the burden off the new mom by holding and taking care of baby while mom and dad look on and spend time just being together without junior between them. A new baby is an extension of the couple and should be included into the daily routine – not seen as a burden outside of the relationship. The roles of parents are many and varied as time presses itself onto the relationship of a new couple. Parents must step up and be companion, lover, mother, nurse, teacher, sympathizer, hugger, kisser, cheerleader, coach, the list goes on and on. Never panic, because somehow we all figure out life as it happens and we do the best we can. Grandparents have a great deal to share and can encourage and offer insights learned from their past. And it all stirs together with a great dollop of kindness – to each other and to ourselves. Take one day at a time and enjoy the ride.
- Beautiful Catastrophe: The Death and Rebirth of Becoming a Mother (blogher.com)
- Modesty & Breastfeeding (realintent.org)
- Having a Baby Chinese Style (kidzfizbiz.wordpress.com)