Happy Grandparent’s Day!

Grandparents

Grandparents (Photo credit: ☺ Lee J Haywood)

Grandparents Day began with the idea of honoring the elderly and championing the cause of the lonely in nursing and retirement homesMarian McQuade, a housewife from West Virginia, brainstormed the idea, which was later to become a nationally recognized holiday, thanks to Jimmy Carter in 1978.  Now the holiday is celebrated on the first Sunday after Labor Day, in September one of the first holidays of the school year that greatly affects most students.

McQuade, the original founder of Grandparents Day, is the mother of fifteen children, grandmother of forty, and great-grandmother of three.  With so many descendants, she was well aware of the special bond that children should have with their grandparents.  While mothers and fathers are the main source of discipline and example in a child’s life, his or her grandparents have a profound affect on viewpoints.  Without the wisdom of the grandparents, many children today wouldn’t understand what it was like to grow up without the technology and amenities of today’s world and wouldn’t appreciate what they have nearly as much.

Another reason to celebrate our grandparents on Grandparents Day is simply because they help to raise us and shape us into the men and women we will become.  It is said that it takes a village to raise a child, and in many families, grandparents baby-sit and share in the responsibility of “bringing up baby”.  With both parents entering the workforce today, coupled with rising daycare costs, retired grandparents have become perhaps the most dependable source of daily child care, meaning they are becoming more prominent in children’s lives.  And, while they’ve already raised a family of their own, most grandparents are willing and even eager to take part in their grandchildren’s care and development.

Grandparents are extraordinary people.  They have stories to tell that expand our horizons and views of life formed through years of experience that we cannot begin to fathom.  We should feel lucky to benefit from this, and our grandparents feel privileged to be able to share these experiences with us.  Overall, grandparents are a great resource for us, and if we can celebrate mothers and fathers, we can definitely recognize grandparents for their achievements in life.

Rx for Home Life

English: An artist's depiction of the rat race...

English: An artist’s depiction of the rat race in reference to the work and life balance. See http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rat_race Made with following images: http://www.openclipart.org/detail/75385 http://www.openclipart.org/detail/74137 (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Dear Doctor Mom,

Most people understand how difficult it can be to balance their work and home lives once they get married and have children. Somehow it seems that work life or home life is always encroaching on the other and causing problems at work, at home, and many times both. However the following five tips are great options to help with balancing work and home.

Make a Schedule

The best thing to do when trying to balance work and home is to make a schedule. Know how much time you have and schedule your work time and your home time. Then, you will know when you need to schedule work and home events. This will make your life significantly easier and you will know which activities fit into which time frame. Just make sure you stick to your schedule.

Share Responsibilities

Many times work and home responsibilities can become overwhelming because one spouse is handling more of the responsibilities than the other. So, learn to share responsibilities at home and each spouse can be responsible for their work. Also, older children should have some home responsibilities as well to help parents balance work and home.

Leave Work at Work

Balancing home and work can be difficult because it is so easy to take work home. If you really want to balance work and home then you will always leave work at work and keep home a sacred place for family and home activities.

Dedicate Weekends to Home Activities

A great way to keep home and work separate is to always focus on home activities during weekends, or at least on days off from work if you happen to work on weekends. When certain days are home days and other days are work days then it makes balancing work and home considerably easier.

Plan

The best way to balance work and home is to always make a plan. There are tons of tips that will help you, but there is nothing like making a plan and then following the plan to really balance work and home. It might be difficult, but if you have it planned out and follow the plan you will be surprised how easy you can find a balance.

Knitting Hearts

English: A Marriage or Husband and Wife tree.

English: A Marriage or Husband and Wife tree. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

Dear Dr. Mom,

 

After years of marriage, or even after a stressful period, you may start to feel like your husband is a stranger. Or is it that you feel he’s getting stranger? Either way, here are 5 simple ways to stay connected to your husband.
1. Cook a meal together.
Whether it’s breakfast or dinner it doesn’t matter, as long as you’re spending time together. How about getting up early Sunday morning and making a big old-fashioned Sunday breakfast for you and the kids? Or sending the kids to a sitter and preparing a nice romantic dinner together? You’ll save money fixing the meal at home rather than dining out. Plus, you won’t have to get “all dolled up” (unless you want to). Most importantly, you’ll be using teamwork, which is the number one priority for any marriage.

2. Take on a project and get dirty!
Tackle a big and messy job on your list – cleaning out the garage, pulling up shrubs in the yard, organizing the attic. Make an afternoon of it and do it together! You’ll both feel a great sense of accomplishment that the job is finally done and it’ll feel great to know that you got it done by operating as a unit. Now that you’ve worked up a sweat, why not draw a bath for two?

3. Spend a lazy afternoon going through old photos and reminiscing.
Talk about the activities you used to do when you first started dating and make a plan to start doing them again. You might not be able to do them all, but make the effort to do as many of them as you can, whether it is taking long walks, going to concerts, or making out at the movies.

4. Play hooky!
Plan a day where you can each stay home from work and spend the whole day home – alone – together – doing absolutely nothing! Lay in bed all day, cuddle, and watch movies. Make sure to turn the ringer off on the phone.

5. Make an effort on a daily basis to stay connected to your husband.
Listen, ask questions – be his partner in all aspects of your life. Something as simple as making it a point to say, “How was your day, Honey?” every day when he gets home and listening to his response can make all the difference.

The most important thing to remember is that you are not in your marriage by yourself. Share your concerns with your husband if you’re not feeling quite as close as you once did. Let him know how you feel, how it makes you feel and that you want to work on it.

Chances are your husband will be clueless, but once he realizes you’re genuinely concerned, he’ll jump right in and make more of an effort. Good luck!

 

 

Why Women Are So Special

Happy Mother’s Day!

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Mum and Dad were watching TV when Mum said,
“I’m tired, and it’s getting late. I think I’ll go to bed.”
She went to the kitchen to make sandwiches for the next day’s lunches.
Rinsed out the popcorn bowls,
took meat out of the freezer for supper the following evening,
checked the cereal box levels,
filled the sugar container,
put spoons and bowls on the table and
started the coffee pot for brewing the next morning.
She then put some wet clothes in the dryer,
put a load of clothes into the washer,
ironed a shirt and secured a loose button.
She picked up the game pieces left on the table,
put the phone back on the charger and
put the telephone book into the drawer
She yawned and stretched and headed for the bedroom.
She stopped by the desk and wrote a note to the teacher,
counted out some cash for the excursion and
pulled a text book out from hiding under the chair.
She signed a birthday card for a friend,
addressed and stamped the envelope and
wrote a quick note for the grocery store.
She put both near her bag.
Mum then washed her face with 3 in 1 cleanser,
put on her Night Solution & age fighting moisturizer,
brushed and flossed her teeth.
Dad called out, “I thought you were going to bed.”
“I’m on my way,” she said. She put some water into the dog’s dish
and put the cat outside,
then made sure the doors were locked and
the patio light was on.
She looked in on each of the kids and
turned out their bedside lamps and radios,
hung up a shirt,
threw some dirty socks into the hamper, and
had a brief conversation with the one up still doing homework.
In her own room, she set the alarm;
laid out clothing for the next day,
straightened up the shoe rack.
She added three things to her 6 most important things to do list.
She said her prayers, and
visualized the accomplishment of her goals.
About that time, Dad turned off the TV and announced to no one in particular. “I’m going to bed.” And he did – without another thought.

Anything extraordinary here? Wonder why women live longer…?
‘CAUSE THEY ARE MADE FOR THE LONG HAUL………
(and they can’t die sooner, they still have things to do!!!!)

Dads read this too so you can know why women are so special ………!

Special Gifts For Mom.

Happy..Happy.. Mother's Day :-)..

Happy..Happy.. Mother’s Day :-).. (Photo credit: Thai Jasmine (Smile..smile…Smile..))

When was the last time we bought something creative, unique and totally special for our mothers to show them that we love and remember them? When was the last time we got them a special gift to tell them that their sacrifice for us is appreciated?

Motherhood is an extremely special experience and it’s an experience that no man will ever be able to experience. Regardless of how we were raised and how our mothers nagged us when we were younger, the sacrifice cannot compare to any other types of sacrifices we’ve made in our lives – rivaled only by OUR sacrifice for our children. Only when we become mothers ourselves will we be able to understand the true magnitude of motherhood.

A special gift says a lot
Forget about the conventional, off-the-shelves books, picture frames, calendars, organizers, flowers, vases and what-have-you. Your mom won’t say they’re not special and will take the gift with a smile and a big thank you (and a hug) but they’re not really the kind of special gift that they, your mothers, will thank you, remember and cherish for a long time to come.

The pure convenience of the purchase speaks for itself. It’s nothing special.

So, what’s a special and unique gift?
A truly special gift is something that your mother will look back 5 or maybe 10 years down the road and smile to herself, her heart with burst and her face will beam with pride. The sacrifice, the love and the commitment was worth it, she’d think to herself. As she watches you ‘mother’ around your own children, she will think it was all worth it because she did the right thing.

A special gift should be something that reminds her of you, of motherhood.

Some ideas of a special gift you can get for your mom:

  • A motherhood-related product – this could be something related to motherhood, with a simple but meaningful quote to remind her of her motherhood years.
  • Something you’ve designed or created
  • A custom-made special gift designed especially for her
  • Something you and your own children have come up with over the weekend or something you’ve worked on for a long time, like a scrapbook or a decorative doll
  • A poem you’ve written
  • A special home-made CD (maybe a special CD) of a vacation with you and your family in it

To find the right special gift for your mother, start with your mother’s personality.

  • What does she like?
  • What kind of memories does she have of raising her children?
  • What are her hobbies and interests?

And once you’ve put your finger on what interests her, finding the right kind of special gift for you should be easy enough.

Dr. Mom? Be Patient too!

Mother holds Child

Mother holds Child (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Dear Dr. Mom,

It’s a novel concept, isn’t it; somebody taking care of you? Well, that somebody ultimately has to be you, and we all know how it is, you’re way too busy taking care of everybody else to give yourself any time. But, here’s why you have to take care of yourself, and here are some ideas as to how to do accomplish this monumental feat.

You’re the Mom – and if you’re out of commission, everybody suffers.

If you can’t manage to take care of yourself, for yourself, then take care of yourself for everybody else! A well-rested, happy Dr. Mom is much more likely to have happy, thriving children. If you’re tired, or you haven’t had an adult conversation in weeks, it will start to show. You’ll be grumpy to say the least; at worst you could be downright dangerous when doing something like driving a car. A frazzled Mom is no good to anyone.

How you treat yourself is how you’re teaching your children to treat you.

If you never let your children see that you have needs, or that you take the time to meet those needs, you’re teaching them that you are, indeed, a doormat, and should be treated as such.

Ok, so now you know you need to take care of yourself, physically and emotionally, but how do you make it happen?

Start with your calendar
Make some appointments you can keep with yourself. (Starbucks? Painting Classes? Lunch with a friend?) Put some appointments in it that will let you have some time to yourself. You choose the activities that will soothe your soul, but whatever they are, make time for them. A few hours a week devoted to something you love other than your family, will help keep you refreshed and feeling like your old self.

Ask for help
You know by now that men are different, right? Well, one of the ways they are different is that they don’t mind telling their partner what they need. And they expect the same from us. If you need your husband to plan to watch the baby for three hours every Saturday so that you can have some time to meditate, vegetate, shop, whatever, you need to tell him. He’s not going to come up with that idea on his own, but if you tell him what you need, he’s likely to oblige.

Make friends with other women in the same boat
There is no substitute for a girlfriend who understands. If you’re a stay at home mom, find some others to hang out with. It may mean some company for you and a play date for your child at the same time. If you’re a working Mom trying to juggle everything, hook up with some other working Mothers to talk things through. It works wonders to know you’re not alone. Plus, you might get some valuable ideas for handling some of the issues you face.

As Dr. Mom, you’re really the heart of your family. Your well being translates into everyone’s well being. Take the time to enjoy the whole person that you are, not just the Mom.

Encouragement For Parents Of A New Born Baby

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Embarrassing parents – swan duckling (Photo credit: @Doug88888)

Usually there is very little or no information known to most of the parents at the time of the arrival of their first baby. There are many new questions that come to the mind of the parents of a newly born baby like how to handle their babies first cold, how to make babies sleep, what kind of food is good for them till the age of 6-9 months, how to soothe babies teething pain, signs that tell if the baby is ready for the solid food and why the solid food is not good for them in the initial few months and so on. The list of such questions is endless.

We get a bunch of different advice and opinions on such questions from everyone we talk to and since babies don’t come with a “manual” – it’s hard to know what the right thing to do is. Thus, it is very important that the parents should educate themselves with the right ways or techniques to take care of their newly born babies.

If mom and dad spend significant time holding and connecting with the new baby physically, a strong bond of intuition tends to develop which serves to facilitate communication between the new infant and the parent. This intuition should be encouraged and honed and it can become a very useful tool that the baby can use to “talk” to the parent with only crying as a language. This cry has been studied and experts have found that different cries that the baby uses can tell the parent what the baby needs.

If the new baby cries unreasonably, before panicking  ask “Are you wet, soiled or uncomfortable (check the diaper), too hot, too cold, (the baby’s hands will be hot or cold to tell you this). Are you hungry? (Nurse or feed set amounts of formulas at set intervals). Are you too full and have a tummy ache or bubble? Do you want to be cuddled? Are you tired? (Your shoulder or lap and a rocking chair would get them off to sleep, and when they are sleeping, slowly and smoothly lay them down and cover them in their bed and go get some rest too).

Friends with kids are a great way to learn about what to do. Friends can help take the burden off the new mom by holding and taking care of baby while mom and dad look on and spend time just being together without junior between them. A new baby is an extension of the couple and should be included into the daily routine – not seen as a burden outside of the relationship. The roles of parents are many and varied as time presses itself onto the relationship of a new couple. Parents must step up and be companion, lover, mother, nurse, teacher, sympathizer, hugger, kisser, cheerleader, coach,  the list goes on and on. Never panic,  because somehow we all figure out life as it happens and we do the best we can. Grandparents have a great deal to share and can encourage and offer insights learned from their past. And it all stirs together with a great dollop of kindness – to each other and to ourselves. Take one day at a time and enjoy the ride.

Get Your Child to Listen!

In the Corner. From A Home (26 watercolours)

In the Corner. From A Home (26 watercolours) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Democratic Parenting ebook  is an approach to parenting that is focused on raising a generation of clear thinking children whom are motivated not by fear, doubt nor insecurity, but guided by love, good judgement and respect. The ebook contains an entire system as to how to accomplish this without using coercive, punitive or reward systems.

Democratic parenting is a system that builds trust between you and your child. Creating mutual respect. It’s a complete methodoly. Yet, it’s dynamic enough to fit into any family’s life. Using it, your child is inspired to have good judgment and clear thinking. Behavior improves as your child learns self-discipline through Natural Consequences (chapter 14). Concentration, focus and attention improves through using the methods in the ebook together.

It’s not easy to raise kids – let alone happy kids! With the pressure and challenges that come with our modern world, children face unprecedented challenges today. Yet they are quickly growing and will soon find themselves in a future that we can’t possibly imagine today. How can we best prepare our kids? This ebook helps answer this question. Watch the video below for some example of Democratic Parenting in action.

This ebook is not just for families with behavioral challenges, this ebook is for all parents. It’s a useful reference for all caregivers of children who want to raise a truly empowered next generation. Grandparents, babysitters, nannies and teachers will all find Democratic Parenting of great value and encouragement.

Raising Healthy Families

Fresh vegetables are important components of a...

Fresh vegetables are important components of a healthy diet. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Raising healthy families today can be hard. Food and activities are very expensive. Considering it can take two parents to make ends meet, it can be hard to afford extra when daycare is astronomical. There are many ways that even the most conservative family can eat and live healthier. Raising the healthy family today includes both physical and emotional teaching. Children must learn what is good to eat, personal hygiene, and about exercise. They also should be taught about the importance of feelings and respecting others and themselves. To be healthy over all, one must be conscientious about both the physical and emotional needs of themselves and others. Being a healthy family starts at home with all members and then spreads into daily life in other areas.

 

Getting Children To Help

 

Children love to help by nature. If you get them involved with living healthy, you will find they will flourish. Healthy families start with getting the entire family unit to work together to improve diet, exercise, and emotional support. Gentle ways to get children to accomplish this is to take their feelings and suggestions seriously. A way to get more vegetables into the diet is to plant a garden. This can be a great family project that will not only save your grocery bill, it also adds quality family time, learning to problem solve, and activity. Children are full of energy and life. They work well to inspire tired adults who are burdened with too many responsibilities. Children can be exactly what a parent needs to motivate a better lifestyle. They are usually willing to try anything once if you make it sound fun.

 

Respecting Each Other

 

While most people think healthy families are all about proper diets and exercise, they could not be further from the truth. Living right is also emotional. We have to not only learn how to treat others, but how to respect our own selves too. When the emotional aspect of life gets over looked it can greatly affect the physical aspect. Respecting each member of the family is vital in teaching children that all people matter. All opinions should be heard and considered. Feeling should always be validated and respected, even if nothing can be done to remedy the issue. When all family members feel respected and validated, they tend to be able to portray and extend this into other areas of life, such as work and school.

 

Lessons On Love And Communication

 

Healthy families revolve around love and communication. These are the keys to long-term happiness and efficient functioning. When you have the ability to communicate well with others, you can problem solve well and portray your feelings effectively. Teaching our children these skills enables them to go into the world productively. More so, when we feel we have effetely communicated out needs to others and are heard, we feel able to open up and feel loved. Love and communication allow for trust, which is vital for healthy living all through out life.

 

About the Author

 

Marie Watson writes weight loss, diet plan, health, beauty and general well-being articles for the Slim Eazy website at www.slimeazy.com